Call how long after first date

I had a great date last night, we met for the first time, and hit it off real well. There were plans made of what we could do during the week and so on. The night ended and I texted her while on my way home that we had a great time and she responded. I called her this evening, and she said she would call back, and she hasent so far……Something wrong?

Should i wait till she calls? How long? Hi Nick. It is difficult to say if something is wrong. It depends on whether she gave a specific time to call back and whether you sensed if she was genuinely blowing you off. However, that said, I would not call her back yet and see if she calls. Sit on your hands if neccessary. Ask her if everything is OK. This her get out option. I suggest waiting a day or two before you decide whether to call. It is appropriate based on the date.

If you both had a really good time, there should be nothing wrong with calling her this evening. My word of caution is that if you have projected that you are intimidated, she may not know what to make of the date. Ooh, that is a toughie lukcb8. My gut is for you not to call and get on with your life. Hi TNB. Sorry for the slow reply. He is allowing you to think that something is wrong.

He sounds like he is quick out the gate and very into the chase. I wrote back who is this not knowing the number was his at the time but found out it was him. Am i being silly waiting around for his call?

It allows you to build castles in the sky before you really know anything about him. I recently went on my first date, four days ago. I thought we hit it off pretty well, or at least that was my impression.

He spoke of coming to see me, about taking me to the movies, and of coarse we had a semi-make out session. I knew this guy from years back. I text him two days later to thank him, but I have yet to hear from him. What should I do? Recently my best friend told her brother that i was single and if he knew anyone who was single aswell, and he said he wanted to get to know me and take me out some time, so we both exchanged numbers and we spoke a couple of times but when we planned to meet up something always came up from his end.

So i didnt hear from him for a while but when my best mate asked him about this, he said that something always comes up but he is interested and would like to meet up. We started talking and he apologised for not calling saying it was always the wrong timing and he is keen, he asked me out for adrink and ended up in his flat. We had a really good time and talked for hours and he was a complete gentleman.

By the end of the night he dropped me home. The next day he called me but to ask if i had spoken to my best mate as she was wondering if i was okay, he also asked if i got home okay, then i told him to call me later when he was free but he didnt call.

I texted the day before yesterday giving him my work email as he asked for it on the date by he hasnt replied. I also called him yesterday to say hello but he didnt answer his phone. So today is the third day since i last spoke to him. Is he interested or not? Dawn — I would be wary of this guy. Citygirl — This guy sounds really fishy.

Him wanting to get to know you is not the same as being interested in forging a relationship. Always remember — guys who give mixed signals are not worth the headache and they signal trouble. Five days ago I went on a really wonderful date with a woman I met online.

The date lasted six hours, we ate, we laughed, we drank, we held hands, we walked, we made out, and we embraced. She reminded me that I have her phone number and her email addresses and that I should use them. I let the next day after the date pass completely, and contacted her the second day after the date in the late afternoon. I left her a nice voicemail and sent her a quick and simple email within the space of twenty minutes.

I went out on a great first date on Tuesday night, I thought we had a good time but there was no conversation about a second date. We had a lot in common and he seemd interested. Note: We are both 50 and have both been divorced for years, with neither of us dating anyone in over 3 years. Hi Patrice. This is a difficult one. Personally, I would leave it to him to call me but admittedly this is a grey area one. If you call him, you have to be prepared for a possibly negative reaction but there is also a possibility that he may be a tad shy and inept after three years of not dating.

The trouble with first dates or any dates for that matter is that there is our perception of things, his, and the reality. You have two choices here. Leave it to him to call. However only do this if you can get on with your life in the meantime and not obsess over it. Or you can be in control of things, call him, and find out what the score is. Always remember as well that your response must be proportionate to the amount of time around each other.

I had a first date with this guy on Tuesday and had a great time. We chatted over drinks for four hours. I had an email in my inbox by the time I got home with him saying he had a great time, hoped I got home ok, but no asking for a second date.

I replied the next day with an equally short email expressing how I had a great time too. What in the heck does this mean? The other option is to ensure that there is a point of action with your email that puts him in the position of having to respond back with a new arrangement to meet up or a time to call.

You are in mixed signals territory and be careful of setting the tone — your short reply may have been perceived as abrupt and closed. Went on a first date with a guy I met online. It went well and next thing we knew a dinner date turned into chatting until 12 in the morning at the restaurant. It ended with a passionate but PG rated kiss. I responded that I, too, had a great time and jotted a quick sentence about my classes that day. Out of curiosity, if you logged onto the dating site, how long is it since his last log in?

If he had time to log in, he had time to call or email. But he warns: "Make sure it's different than whatever you did the first time. If your first date was drinks, then maybe go out to dinner.

Unless your first date involved sex—and no judgment if so, hope you had fun! If your date starts to take things to a sexual place, Kramer recommends following their lead, but remember to keep it mellow. You want to spend time with this person in real life, not have a sexual pen pal. If you like the person, why are you playing games with them?

Let them know you had fun. It makes you look kind of desperate, in my honest opinion. You never know if someone is looking you up on socials, but assume that they are.

Maybe you both are into the same show and you could send a joke from the show. Maybe you talked about something specific that you could mention. Keep the conversation going by asking thoughtful questions.

That winds up going nowhere. Text when you have something interesting to say and no, complaining about your workday is not interesting. Nor will compliments —a compliment after a first date feels like a review. While complimenting someone is inherently nice, fawning over a person via text becomes tedious and often uncomfortable quickly. Rather than feeling flattered, I felt weirded out that he was playing back the date that I was on.

Instead, send texts full of New Fun Plans. While it might sting a bit, you deserve to find someone who wants to keep talking rather than someone who makes you second-guess their feelings. Take as much time as you need for yourself before putting yourself back out there. Method 3. Start with something specific that made you smile during the date. If you had a good time out on your date, let the other person know that right away.

Think of a fun and memorable moment from your date and bring it up in your message. Telling the person a specific detail lets them know you enjoy their company and are interested in seeing them again. I still had some fun cheering you on! It was SO good. OMG we have to talk about the ending! Suggest a second date within 2 weeks if you want to see them again.

Rather than only texting each other, plan your next date so you can bond in person. I was wondering if you wanted to get together again for drinks this Saturday night? How does Friday night sound? That way, you can gently remind them of the conversation without sounding too needy or desperate. Unfortunately, not every date will go as well as others. After that, give the person some space and avoid texting them again. I appreciate you understanding. Thanks for understanding. Thanks for a nice time.

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